Life is in Observation and Kindness
Blog One
- There is tremendous grief in losing something that you believe should have been but what did not come to pass.
- Healing does not follow a set timing path, every occasion and individual is different.
- People thrive on connection and there is longing and loss where it is absent.
- People need to be seen and known and hear their name used.
- Growth sometimes begins with the tiniest steps.
- Everyone sees differently through their own separate lenses.
- We all have questions and no one has all the answers, even if they appear to.
Blog 2
Anxiety
To be anxious is part of every persons life, however it can become a concern if it is prolonged, it is out of proportion for the situation or if it begins to affect a person's daily life and it can become a disorder if not attended to.
It is possible that some things can make a person more prone to anxiety for example if a family member has already suffered with it previously, if they experience stressful or traumatic events, if they struggle with physical conditions or chronic pain or are struggling with alcohol or substance issues.
Physical symptoms of anxiety may include:
Shortness of breath Heart Racing
Feeling Faint Headaches/feeling dizzy
Tightness in the chest Butterfly feeling in the stomach
Feeling nausea Racing pulse
Emotional Symptoms may include:
Feeling embarrassed/guilty Feeling panicked with or without reason
Feeling detached as if not there Inability to concentrate
Being indecisive Feeling like everyone is watching you
You may find yourself:
Avoid going out
Avoid people/sit alone/go when places are quiet
Prefer going with someone else instead of alone
Changing sleep and eating habits due to worry or panic
Treatment
Anxiety comes in varying degrees from mild which can be managed due to its short lived appearances to more severe which could be aided with treatment.
It can be managed and has good statistics for improvements with 62 per cent recovering and 71 per cent reliably improving *
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Relaxation Therapy
- GP referral for possible help
- Self-help in mindfulness, podcasts and breathing techniques
- More...
"Trust yourself. You've survived a lot and you'll survive whatever is coming.' Robert Yew
* https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/blog/new-research-proves-anxiety-uk-therapy-services-are-highly-effective/
Blog 3
Healing from Trauma
Trauma is any extremely profound experience that changes how you think, feel and act as a response. It may not be about what happened to you, rather how your body and mind responded to what happened.
What is Trauma?
Trauma is any extremely profound experience that changes how you think, feel and act as a response. It may not be about what happened to you but how your body and mind responded to what happened. An experience that overwhelms your emotions, feelings, thoughts and or physical being and it is extremely individual and different for everyone.
Often past trauma sends our bodies, minds and emotions on high alert with things that others may find quite insignificant, yet to us they may be a significant trigger. If this happens regularly, our life of high alert develops into the new normal and it becomes difficult to adjust to life without it.
Trauma can come from many experiences of abuse of any kind, be it verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, religious/spiritual, financial or by withdrawal; neglect in childhood years, accident or natural disaster, being witness to bodily harm, abuse, death or violence (including community), sudden or violent passing of loved ones from your life, continued fear of harm or continued life in a highly stressed situation.
What are the signs of Trauma?
There are many different signs of trauma and they may be experienced on different levels for each individual compared to their situation. They may not get all or most of the list below.
- Problems in emotion regulation
- Altered attention and concentration
- Re-experiencing for example in nightmares or flashbacks
- Hypervigilance, heightened perception of future threats
- Avoidance
- Physical sensations of fear
- Diminished belief system, sense of worthlessness or guilt
- Lost time or memories
- Insecure attachments to new people who are untrustworthy
Immediate Self-Help
Try to re-affirm your self-worth and positive self-talk
Take the time you need to process, everyone is different
Practice mindfulness
Be in the present - appreciate what you have now and who you are now
Reassure yourself
Try to journal your thoughts
Express your feelings aloud
Forgive yourself
Take one step at a time
Take about your experiences - to a friend, a family member, a confidential person online or a professional therapist or counsellor to begin your journey to a new you.
You can do this...you deserve this...this was not your fault!
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